Okay, here’s another from good ol’ Yalom. Because Yalom is so awesome, I have created this very short, yet sweet song:
I love Yalom,
And Yalom loves me,
He gets me in-to
With that said, here’s a nice passage on acceptance:
“Group members’ acceptance of one another, though crucial in the group therapeutic process, may be quite slow to develop. Acceptance by others and self-acceptance are mutually dependent; not only is self-acceptance basically dependent on acceptance of others, but acceptance of others is fully possible only after the individual can accept himself. The members of a therapy group may experience considerable self-contempt and a deep contempt for others.
A manifestation of this may be seen in the patient’s initial refusal to join ‘a group of nuts’ or his reluctance to become closely involved in the group for fear of being sucked into a maelstrom of misery.
The importance of self acceptance for the acceptance of others has been demonstrated in research by Rubin, who studied fifty individuals before and after an intensive live-in two-week T-group laboratory and found that an increase in self-acceptance was significantly correlated with increased acceptance of others. These results are consonant with Fromm’s statement many years ago that only after one is able to love himself is he able to love others. I would add, however, that only after he has once been loved will he be able to love himself.” – p.55-56